I am a 28 year old female and I have been in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend for six years. I have expressed to him that I wanted to get married and have kids, I told him this 5 months into our relationship. I been waiting six years at this point and every time I bring it up, he says it is not the right time. I am not sure if he will ever marry me. I do love him, but I also want to get married and start a family. I feel like I am wasting my time. I am also not happy in this relationship and have not been for a long time. I want to walk away but I feel afraid of making a mistake? Please help!
Dear Confused and Heartbroken,
My advice to you is to start prioritizing your needs and wants. I feel that you do not need to sacrifice what you want in life for a relationship and being patient for another month or years might not guarantee that he will marry you. At times we have to look at the reality that is in front of us, instead of creating this fantasy of what it could be. The reality is that he has some reservations about marriage and is hesitant; the reality is that he has not proposed and the relationship is not moving in the direction that you would like it to move. You have to put your needs and take control of your happiness. You cannot wait around and hope that one day he will propose, you have to make peace with the fact, that it may never happen. I would advise you to put your happiness first and if your needs and wants are not being met in this relationship, do not waste anymore time. At the end of the day you will never regret following your heart and putting your needs first. You are worthy and deserving of having your happy ending.
Best of luck,
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