How do I tell my husband I never want to have children?

Question:

Dear Fahima,

 I love your blog and Iseriously need advice, I have been married for 5 years, we have no kids becauseI just finished university and my husband is already pressuring me to havekids. What he doesn’t know is that I don’t want children ever. And I am runningout of excuses, how I can tell him this without breaking his heart.

Love,

Faith

Answer:

Hi Faith,

Thank you so much, I appreciate you supporting my blog. This is a difficult thing to tell your spouse and no matter how you tell him, most likely he will be shocked and disappointed.That is why it is so crucial to discuss these things before marriage. However I don’t know your circumstance, maybe you thought you wanted kids and changed your mind, or you knew you never wanted children ever. Either way you are in this circumstance now and my advice to you is to sit him down and speak to him from the heart. Start off by telling him how much he means to you and that you have something difficult to share with him. Apologize for not telling him sooner. Once you have told him, allow him the space to go through whatever emotion he starts to experience and let him say what he needs to say. I would also advice you to do this as soon as possible. The sooner you do it, the better. He deserves to know the truth and you deserve to let go of this heavy burden that you are carrying. I am wishing both of you the very best.

Take Care,

Fahima

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